Often, we find ourselves holding back from saying certain things to people, but when it comes to our own inner dialogue — we have no filter. Think back to a time where you were feeling down even though you knew you were being too hard on yourself. Fortunately, by paying attention to our inner dialogue, we can free ourselves from self-doubt and become more comfortable with who we are. Here are 3 ways to stop negative self-talk:
Become Aware of Negative Thoughts
The first step in silencing negative self-talk is to become aware of the problem in the first place. In this case, it means being aware of any time a negative thought enters your mind. Meditation is a powerful tool to help you become aware of your different thought patterns.
Accept That You’re Already Good Enough
As much as we’d all like to believe it, no one’s perfect — and that’s okay. Everyone has their strengths and everyone has their weaknesses. The important part is to use your own strengths and realize there’s no shame in asking for help where you need it. Sometimes, this is easier said than done, and we end up being too hard on ourselves. Next time you catch your mind drifting into negativity, replace the thought with a positive affirmation, such as, “I am enough.”
This final piece of advice is important to remember, especially when you make a mistake. Think of this as being a better friend to yourself. If a friend made a mistake, how would you console them and help them move past it? You wouldn’t make them feel worse about it, so why do that to yourself? Try applying the advice you’d give to your own life.
The next time negative thoughts enter your mind, remember that there’s always a silver lining. While it may take some adjustment, you can “rewire” your mind with intentional practice, and over time it will become a paradise for positivity.